The frame of hot water: what am I?

Going to work everyday with the subway offers me a lot of time to read and to observe things I did not before. Flipping the pages of a magazine, I discovered the "Inspiration" section and it draw my attention. Even thought the title was a bit ackward because I was thinking about food, I decided to spend some time on it. The story goes like this:

Once upon a time, a young lady goes to her mother to visit. She just said "Hello" and started to talk about her life, to complain about how hard it is at her job, how many problems she encountered, about how difficult can be to have beautiful relationships. Everything around her seemed negative and biased, and more than that, overwhelming. She was asking herself if it was the time to give up as she was tired. Tired of fighting, tired of finding solutions and tired of being awake every morning and facing problems, one after another. Like they have never stopped coming. 

Her mother listened to her to the end and then took her hand and lead her way to the kitchen. The girl was amazed about the gesture and whispered she is not hungry. Smiling, the old lady grabbed a chair for her and brought 3 pots with water in front of her. In the first one, she put carrots. In the second one, she put eggs and in the third one, she added beans of coffee. The young lady became skeptic but she sat there quietly as her mother nuddled to relax. 

20 minutes after the water in the pots with the 3 ingredients have been  boiling, the old lady brought 3 bowls and got out from the pots the carrots in the first one and the egg in the second one. The third one was filled with  the beans picked from the third pot. Then, the old lady decided to break the silence and asked her daughter:

What do you see? The answer was: "Carrots, eggs and beans of coffee". "Come closer", replied her mother, "and feel them". She touched the carrots and they became soften. She took an egg and shed tried to break it, but it became really solidified. At then end of the experiment, her mother asked her to smell and taste the coffee. A smile came up imediately on her daughter's face when she felt the rich flavor of the coffee, who instantly asked : "What is the point of all these things, mom?"

Her mother explained that all of the ingredients encountered the same resistance to a phenomenon -"the boiling". But each of them reacted differently: the solid carrots became soften, the soften egg has become solid and the beans of coffee generated a special result. After boiling, the beans of coffee changed the color and the taste of the water. 

"Who are you?", asked the mother. "Who are you when the challenges of life come to you? How do you face them?...Like a carrots, like an egg or like the beans of coffee?"

So, thinking about it, I should be aware of how do I react and how my behavior is going to be translated to future. Am I like the carrot which seems solid but once it encountered a challenge it became softened and loses its power? Am I like the egg which seems strong/solid but faced with a problem, it became solidified, meaning to become rigid on the inside? Or am I like a bean of coffee - changing the water during the process of boiling? The process of boiling is the context, the frame of the challenges I am going through. 

Therefore, if I am like the beans of coffee, even if my "boiling" situation is causing me suffering, I will still be able to become better as a person and to change what is happening around me. And no, that does not mean that everything is solved but it means that I am able to lift me up to another level. Another level of experience and existence. 

From my point of view, you cannot always be like the beans of coffee. But having this in mind, I will tend to be and learn from the situations when I'm like a carrot or an egg. 

The power to accept the things I cannot change

And Yes. I project my values system to others. Hence, I have false expectations from the people around me. Most of the time, I thought they need fixing when they only needed to be listened. I did the listening without taking into account that, what matters to me might be the last thing to preoccupy the person next to me. No two people have the same values system.  The concept is called the Pauli ExclusionPrinciple.

This is not easy to live up with. I am aware of it now and I know that everybody had its own set of values. It is not like I did not know about it before, I had knowledge about but in practice, I did not apply or integrated the implications. Mine is composed of the time and space I allocate to people and things. What I actually lost of my sight until now is the way I spent my energy.  What am I thinking at is another thing I kind of missed when discovering what I want, feel or what/who I am.

So, at a certain point, I thought maybe something is really wrong with me. Maybe my order is a kind of chaos because in theory, I support ideas and some things but then, when put in practice, my behavior and my actions are guided upon other values.  

Recently, a thing struck me. I am trying very much to accomplish my objectives without being aware of the fact that my life is in a continuous change. It is a period that overlaps the self-discovery process with a full professional learning environment. I have a strong belief that hard-working people will get their dreams come true and they deserve it. And I also believe that life treats us as it does due to a reason and not a coincidence. Therefore, I had in mind all the time that, if I do my best and I work for what I want with all my power, knowledge and passion, it cannot go (that) wrong.

It is a feeling of powerless in front of what is happening that overwhelms every muscle in the body. It is like paralising when being caught in a spider's web.Still fighting but you know what the end is, after all. 

I guess life had to show me the opposite to understand that in this situation, no matter how much I tried, offered or prayed, some things are not meant to be realized. I do not know the name of this phenomenon, faith, destiny or randomness, but I sure know that Absolute and Never are words that I should stop using them.  Unless I want Life to prove me wrong again. 

And it's not like I am challenging life. My happiness is just slightly surrounding the road I had in mind. That's fine, cause I guess good things are on the way :)

It takes Time

How come we rush into actions, feelings and dreams? Is true that we don’t have TIME? I don’t have an answer to the question even though I say the exact words sometimes. Nevertheless, I am not convinced that we DON’T HAVE TIME. I believe that the time had the same dimension and speed from the beginning of the world so it’s not the TIME that changed but WE DID. And especially, we have changed the usage of it.

So what do we use our time for? Making a count on this ending week, I can see in my schedule that beside work, I spent most of my time at work, on the second place on the way there and back and I did not have much left for cooking, washing, running, reading and mails/calls. Therefore, almost nothing left for ME. ME. An observation popped-up: I am the last in the list o priorities lately. And that part of me is screaming. It wants attention. Fair enough. So, I will apply a new design for my time management. Already sketched, I am now doing that for the next week to test it. Seems like the relaxed, “let it come to me” style needs a bit of…make up.  And this way I will see if I can “make some time”. It sounds so weird, like I can create time. Oh, I wish I could create time. (Barney Stinson would be so jealous of me!!) I already have it, I just misuse it.

Next step: figuring out what is more important to me. Everything I did it will stay, all of those important things for me. The idea is to ADD things to my life that can make me feel…fulfilled (within the conditions I have). I don’t wish for perfection or “pinky life”.  Still, I believe I can do more. It’s not a “”if …then..” situation or another type of pressure in my life but I feel that I want to do it and I have the capacity to succeed. I did in Denmark so I have to find a suitable receipt for Romania. Applying that one did not work (I tried - silly me).

It takes time to do the real important things: to trust and be trusted, to love and be loved, to respect, to share and to give up pride. I suggest the length in time because such strong feelings and actions are internalized and integrated to a body system step by step. I am fooling myself if I believe that just by repeating that to my brain and my soul, it will do.

 It takes time especially because we live in this world where values like integrity, honesty, happiness or solidarity are just…beautiful words, utopias(and the number of those who believe this is increasing day by day- I guess they are making babies and putting this idea into their head – otherwise, I don’t understand how the dynamic of pessimistic people has increased so much! ). It’s a world where I am being said at every step that I can’t/shouldn’t’ trust anybody. But I want to trust people. And I want to love. It takes time for this. But I already made the first step. I gave up my pride.

And the song that followed in my player when writing this post:

(It takes time/ Living a world where you don’t know who to trust) Lyrics

One of my kind

Singing mood again. And thats' alright, usually. The last 2 days I've had small cold in such a warm (HOT!) city. That did not helped in balancing the temperature of my body. So, I am singing again!:D



and the original version :D



This song comes into my mind especially due to the wonderful people I had the honour to meet at HR Club Next Generation 2011. The everyday discussions I have with them, make me feel that I am in the right place at the right moment (almost feels like recruitment:P ). I am happy to see optimistic and ambitious people, young determinated people to bring more choices and changes in a world where money and power are almost fully promoted (aka Romania).

Congrats to them!
Meeting this kind of people makes me keep going and trusting that the future will bring something beautiful. I am sure that these events are meant to happen and to bring together passioned people!

It feels so conforting to talk with people with a common language and interest and more than that, determined to ACT and not just to TALK.  It almost feels like I found the belonging feeling (which is a need of every living person).

Sometimes, I am not sure how this works but it just does. When you want something very much, even the universe works for it. The law of attraction? Luck? Coincidence? God? Maybe one, some or maybe all of them together. I am grateful for the opportunity and I promise to promote and support this type of initiative.

I can say now to any of the participants : "You're one of my kind", like in the song. :P:P Hopefully, some of them will become my friends :D This means, to breakdown the walls of facebook :)
And this kind of events reminds me of my AIESEC family :X

How can I remember today’s lesson?

Often, I hear people that they like to learn by doing. True story, it’s very useful indeed. Let’s not forget that every human being has its own characteristics and needs. Therefore, generalizing is not a good solution in any case. Remembering everyday’s lesson is a big challenge. And I asked myself if I really want to remember a lesson from each day. Oh well, it would be unrealistic to say that I will. The next step comes in my life comes from the advice from 2 different persons with the same passion: training. And it is something that I was doing just before I started to write this post: writing the most important ideas from that day and my target is from 3 to 5. Not more and not less. 

Simple. Almost like life. Is it? Is it simple? Yes and no. There’s no correct answer but different perspectives. The main ideas of the day are:

1.     Give yourself at least some time to answer to a question à Less than 10 seconds.  (This idea also contributes to my active listening objective)

2.   Ask. Ask questions and I will obtain the most important part of the power: information. (Overcoming my fear of asking stupid stuff)

3.     Don’t under-rate yourself no matter how other rate you. Your identity shouldn’t become one of a loser just because one/some person(s) believe this. 

Writing. I came back at this. I cannot explain the feeling. It feels so natural. Remember, my goal is not to promote what I write.

These ideas are not new or revealing. I write them to remember myself that even though I should have them integrated in my actions and behavior, sometimes, I lose focus and my fears overcome my strengths. 

Having this said, my last remark for today is: some people learn from everyday’s lesson, but other..they just say  this  and repeat the mistakes over and over again.   

A life long learning process

When I woke up today, I just had in mind, what will I do for myself today as I have so many things to do and the deadlines are really close? Will I have the time (a short one, of course) for myself? The answer in my mind was: probably not, maybe tomorrow. Well, I then realized that if I do that every day, I will never have time for myself. 

So, starting today, I will have this page as an engagement to myself that I will give myself time to discover and enjoy life. I will give myself time to ask questions, to reflect upon the answers and to see my progress. 

 I choose not to procrastinate and to dedicate the time that was meant for procrastination to silly small things that can and will make me happy. 

This idea mainly came from the bike accident that I had 2 weeks ago when I realized that I cannot stop working unless I am hurt and I have to. It's not that I don't like to work or I don't like to rest, it's just that, I forgot the most important thing: balance. Well, that's not easy to get but I also forgot to try to find it. I was simply believing that it will come by itself. I could have waited for a long time......... it was just a small and very useful reminder. 

It's strange how the moment of the accident felt so long, it was like a neverending moment. The time was dilated and I felt powerless in front of the situation. I couldn't think aout something else than the moment and nothing mattered anymore: responsibilities, problems, tasks or wishes. I felt alone and without control. 

It was not the first moment of this kind in my life and it has reminded me that even though work is so important, if I am not healthy and I don't take care of myself, no one else will. For good reasons. I mean yes, friends and family are supposed to be there for me (and by all means, they are) but I am the first responsible for what happens to me. No one else is responsible for my happiness and my feelings. Of course, the external factors have a big word to say in this but still, we can make our way through life happy or miserable. We have a choice and mostly, often I choose to blame faith. Now, this is not valid anymore. I take over the lead for my    way and I choose to be happy  because I do not know what is going to happen in my life in a minute, one hour, a day or a month. So planning is good., I will still do that but appreciating all the moments in my life (good or bad) is my next purpose. All the moments have a meaning and a sense and they become part of us. 

And I got it! I have the next step of my life learning process: I bought a notebook, a very nice, small (I can have all the time with me), colored notebook and I will write:

* dreams

* crazy thoughts (good and bad) to remind me that I am not an angel, I am just human

* interesting things that I find out

* happy moments

and of course, all the other things that I will consider necessary. 

In order not to become a burden, because I tend (sometimes) to do that with things because I have the purpose of making them daily, this is free of deadline in my to do list. When I feel like writing in it, it will be wonderful. If I do not, the same. 

Hmm.. it will be interesting to see (for me) what I will write by the end of my Erasmus stage in Denmark. Then I will have another notebook at home and I will see if Aarhus is "to blame" for my happiness here because after all, I am living in the city with the happiest people on Earth.  

Love moments

How can I recognize a LOVE moment? Sometimes I forget how happy I am. This is a reminder for me and for all the people who feel the same. We alk a lot about happiness and what that means but do we really know? Do we really appreciate and enjoy those moments when they come to our life?

I will watch this every time I feel that I should give up. Cause sometimes, those moments appear in my life and I feel that I cannot do what I want anymore. This is like a hope, an energizer and a constant proof that I do not need extraordinary things to smile and to feel fulfilled.

When are you  happy? Because I am happy when...

Love moments on Prezi

Love moments on Prezi

To have or not to have ...problems

Problems. A word used almost every day by a person. What does the word mean? Oh, again, maybe the definition is clear-cut "a state of difficulty that needs to be resolved" but don't imagine that it means the same for all the people. Of course, as far as I have traveled (and that is not very much, unfortunately), people have the same problems but seen by different angles. They also give different levels of importance to the problems, mostly according to the country and personality type. So I cannot say that my BIG problem can ever be a problem for my classmates or their problems, their type of problems have a big importance for me. It's a matter of perception. What I can surely say is that we cannot escape of them. Even if I am here or in Romania or in any other country, I would still have problems. And that's ok with me cause life would be so booring without them.

It's not like I enjoy having problems but how would life look like with ZERO problems? Heaven? Maybe. Maybe not. Would we still learn so much? I believe we will never know the answer to that. We had a chance and we lost it. Now, we have to bare the consequences.

And yes, I have problems. I have the chance to have them as much as any other person in the world. What do I do then? There are 3 big cases for me. 

1. Cry like a baby.

 I can be upset, not talking too much, cry almost because of every single sentence that has a sad meaning. Mostly, this stage appears in every big problem that I have and it is replaced after a few minutes with brainstorming. And of course, "the beloved": stress. Everything gets hectic, annoying, stressfull, disturbing, unsolvable, unrealisable, negative. Connections with the past problems and appraches come fast into my mind and I complain. Like that helps. Well, I have to say that such a "baby behaviour" can be useful due to the fact that I can set myself free of the negative energy by doing actions like the ones mentioned. The idea is that: I need to stop. If I continue with this atittude, I would only get pitty and zero actions. Maybe a timer would help :))

2. Prove myself that I can solve it. Look for opportunities, spend a lot of time and energy on it. 

It might look like a very good solution. Usually it gives me a big picture of what happens, how it happens and brings me to what I really want to know: why it happens and why is it important for me. I just "might" look like a good solution because sometimes I get lost in the analysis part and forget to put in practice some of the ideas or just be aware of so many possibilities that it is very difficult to choose. It's true that analysis and processing the information has a great importance for me. I love it and I usually do it without even knowing it. Some other issues appear when the words "too much" come into the picture. When I spend too much time and too much energy on them.

3. "Let it be" solution.

I actually do nothing about it. Not vegetating, of course, but not trying that much. Less energy and interest, focusing on something else and saying to myself "it's going to be ok, in one way or another". Surprinsingly, sometimes, it really works. I call them wonders and wonderful gifts/moments, others may call them in different ways: law of attraction, special vibe, coincidence, faith, luck etc. I don't mind to use any label for those events. But I like to call them "faith moments", a believer's moment - believe and it will come to you. When everything goes wrong, something choses to go "right" and the sky is not that cloudy anymore and every darkness can be lighted with a small gesture or experience. I will probably never now  how I do it. Maybe it comes naturally. Hopefully. 

Probably, the best way to deal with a problem is neither. It might be a combination of the 3 or simple, a way to figure it out how to give up. Sometimes, you have to let go. That does not mean to give up fighting, I refer by this to acceptance. Some things are just not meant to happen. Other good things come even though it's not "the right moment". The important thing is to remain open-minded and to see ourselves as people who face challenges and difficulties but not to see them as a burden because it might become a pain in the soul. Make small steps to your happiness. When problems follow you, throw them in your favour. Take what is good from the experience and remember that a mistake can change our lives. Forever. 

Viata ca o aventura

Nu imi amintesc sa fi visat vreodata sa am o viata aventuroasa, sa traiesc de pe un minut pe altul sau sa ma bucur de toata incurcaturile pe care le intampin. Si uite ca asta fac. Firea mea linistita imi spunea ca daca o sa calculez totul cu atentie, lucrurile o sa mearga macar aproximativ pe directia pe care imi doresc. Daca vreu, pot ! spuneam eu in fiecare zi. Uneori, asta nu e suficient. Lucruri neprevazute pot aparea si pot sa dea totul peste cap.

Indecizia mea de a aplica pentru o bursa Eramsus m-a adus cu aproape o ora inaintea deadline-ului si doar un curaj nebun m-a facut sa o scriu, sa am norocul sa mi se strice imprimanta si sa am timp sa merg sa printez ceea ce am scris ca sa ajung. Ca sa nu mai vorbesc de incurcatura cu interviul. Relaxarea mea adusa de orasul Timisoara si de oamenii de acolo (oameni frumosi la suflet!) imi spunea ca mai am timp o saptamana cand o colega ma intreba cum a fost la interviu, 2 zile mai tarziu dupa aplicatie. Culmea, nu verificasem cand o sa fie interviurile si deja trecuse randul meu. Cu sufletul la gura, am alergat la universitate si am avut parte de un interviu interesant, mai putin incurajator cu privire la evolutia mea viitoare daca primesc aceasta bursa. De parca ar fi prima data cand ma descurajeaza cineva si totusi, vreau sa fac un lucru. Am ajuns la concluzia ca, multi oameni cred ca daca ei nu sunt in stare sa fac un lucru, nici ceilalti nu vor reusi. Nu as putea fi de acord. Plus ca, nimeni nu e perfect asa ca nu ma asteptam sa fie lapte cu miere sau profesori care sa ne planga de mila ca suntem studenti internationali. Nu fac nici o diferenta de nativii vorbitori de engleza sau noi si cred ca asa e corect. Atat stii, asa te descurci, asta meriti. Cred ca toti stiam pentru ce aplicam.

Cu mai multe vorbe sau nu, cu obstacole si descurajari dar si cu sustinere (retinuta oarecum) am ajuns si in Danemarca la studii. Cine ar fi crezut! Daca m-ar fi intrebat cineva in timpul facultatii de asta, cred ca radeam copios si visam cu ochii deschisi, stiind ca o astfel de oportunitate nu as mai avea niciodata. Imi amintesc cand am aplicat prima data, in anul 1 pentru Erasmus si apoi cand am fost in comisia Erasmus si cat am regretat ca pana la urma nu am avut suficient curaj sa iau aceasta oportunitate. Cred ca imi era frica. Nu ca acum nu mi-ar fi fost. E ca si cum ai juca UNO. Si ai cartea potrivita sa inchei jocul.

Aceasta situatie a fost oarecum conturata si provocata de prietenii mei. Prieteni precum Anamaria, Ioana, Alexandra sau cei de acasa imi vorbeau tot timpul de cat de frumoasa ar fi o experienta pentru mine. Doar eu nu ma vedeam acolo. Nici nu indrazneam sa ma gandesc la asta. Tin sa le multumesc ca mi-au dat curaj si ca au vazut in mine ceea ce eu nu am putut si doar prin a vorbi de experientele lor internationale m-au facut sa ma imaginez undeva in afara contextul dat de Romania si invatamantul romanesc.

Acum imi place viata pe care o traiesc, e o adevarata aventura! In fiecare zi aflu ceva nou despre danezi sau alte culturi, stiu sa salut si sa multumesc cuiva in cel putin 10 limbi straine, am parte de profesori de care auzisem numai in  carti si de colegi workaholic. Astfel, eu par prea relaxata pe langa ei. De la probleme cu florile pana la probleme cu masina si intarzierea predarii lucrarii la secertariat cu 13 minute si aplicarea la comisia speciala de la departamentul de Stiinte Politice pentru a-mi permite sa dau examenul cu acele 13 minute intarziate, In caz contrar, trebuie sa merg in restanta si sa scriu alta lucrare de 6000 de cuvinte. Dragut sistem, corect!

Am invatat aici multe lucruri despre care acasa doar vorbeam ca o sa le fac. In principiu, pentru ca aici e o normalitate. Si imi place asta. Oameni obsedati de sanatate, care alearga cate 2-3 ore pe zi pe frigul asta, care mananca sanatos si care nu accepta ideea de a invata o noapte intreaga pentru ca somnul iti da energie si e important. Diferentele au fost apasatoare la inceput, acum am invatat sa le accept. Cred ca danezii au o viata perfecta din toate celelalte puncte de vedere, le mai trebuie putin suflet pentru a avea idealul. Nu cred insa ca stiu cum sa faca asta. Oricum ar fi, ii admir pentru harnicia lor si pentru seriozitatea de care dau dovada, pentru corectitudine si responsabilitate. Ii admir pentru ca, desi au mereu probleme cu strainii din tara lor, inca mai gasesc puterea de a ajuta oameni si sunt mandri cand cineva doreste sa se stabileasca aici.




Am avea mult de invatat de la ei. Ca tara, ca oameni, ca organizare la lucrurilor. In schimb, ei ar putea sa invete sa simta mai mult de la noi. Sa inteleaga altfel iubirea si interesul pentru persoana de langa ei. Sa inteleaga altfel iubirea de parinti. Sa inteleaga,,greutati..cuvant cu care nu prea s-au confruntat..sau poate ca da, daca ne gandim la reduceri privnd pensiile si salariile..



Aventura mea aici continua in fiecare zi. De la a calatori in Germania pana la a ma duce in centru, totul este o aventura si imprejurarile nu ma lasa sa uit asta. Ca sa nu mai vorbesc de bicicleta mea draguta, care nu ma lasa sa uit ca o vale nu e deloc placuta pentru mine deoarece franele pot ceda foarte usor in fiecare moment :)))))))

Internetul ca mediu de socializare

Atunci când ne referim la relaţia dintre socializare şi internet, studiile arată că Internetul devine mediu constant accesat de către aceştia atunci când vine vorba în primul rând de socializare, dar mediul virtual nu este deloc neglijat nici în activităţi precum jocuri, descărcare de muzică şi filme sau chiar cumpărături online şi tot mai mulţi elevi aleg Internetul ca principal mijloc de informare în realizarea diverselor proiecte de la şcoală. Deja în Europa se discută de efectele dependenţei de calculator şi Internet, însă deşi majoritatea adolescenţilor au discutat la şcoală despre siguranţa online, rămân teme importante neacoperite precum intimitatea, phishing sau spyware.

Se ştie că tinerii şi chiar copiii sunt atraşi de cultura digitală şi de suporturile tehnice care o promovează. Din punct de vedere expresiv, aceasta se prezintă sub formă de jocuri, videoclipuri, producţii video sau conectivităţi de tot felul, precum: forumuri de discuţii, chaturi, discuţii audio-video în timp real etc. Pot fi identificate şi suporturi aparent tradiţionale, însă care îşi acaparează noile tehnologii digitale (păpuşi care vorbesc, roboţei cu tot felul de performanţe). Este evident că repertoriul se lărgeşte odată cu avansul tehnologic. Copilul se trezeşte într-un astfel de mediu pe care va dori să îl cunoască şi să îl stăpânească. Computerele devin obiecte ale unui peisaj comun, întâlnit la tot pasul.

Ne putem întreba: care mai este înţelesul copilăriei acum, comparativ cu deceniile trecute? Este posibil ca experienţele fundamentale ale omului să fie filtrate prin intermediul acestor instrumente astfel încât trăirile cele mai importante să capete o altă dimensiune (prima iubire, ataşamentul faţă de o persoană, bucuria aflării unei veşti, respectiv tristeţea etc.). Se naşte astfel un nou spaţiu de comuniune şi împărtăşire a experienţelor – cel de ordin virtual.

De altfel, socializarea tinde să dobândească o dimensiune nouă – una extensivă – integrând, şi experienţe atipice – de ordin virtual - , în care nu mai există contacte sau trăiri directe.  Adultul de mâine îşi va aminti cu emoţie de prima „declaraţie de dragoste” exprimată către cineva necunoscut (eventual, într-o altă limbă), către cineva neîntâlnit sau necontactabil concret, poate, niciodată.

Noile sisteme de conectare şi de comunicare pot accelera capacităţile comunicaţionale, imaginative sau inventive, dar le şi pot încetini sau stopa, dacă nu sunt utilizate în chip judicios şi, mai ales, dacă sunt utilizate în mod univoc. Oricât de performantă ar fi noua tehnologie, aceasta se cere a fi completată cu strategii tradiţionale, clasice, de performare a abilităţilor umane. Este bine să comunicăm cu sau prin calculator, dar şi cu cei din preajma noastră.

Contactul viu, direct, colocvial şi personal cu cei din jurul nostru  sau cu propria persoană nu poate fi înlocuit plenar niciodată cu nici o tehnică, oricât de sofisticată ar fi. Poveştile bunicilor din faţa focului din vatră nu vor putea fi niciodată înlocuite de vreo tehnologie. Setea de conectare la universul digital substituie în oarece privinţă înclinația originară a subiectului către transcendenţă.

 Interactivitatea om-maşină nu este un dialog efectiv, natural, intersubiectiv. Oricât de performant ar fi programul, acesta nu va genera obiecte sau fenomene reale, ci substitute ale acestora. „A înlocui raporturile naturale cu cele artificiale conduce la atrofierea persoanei şi la o desocializare a acesteia”, spune Constantin Cucoş atunci când vorbeşte despre lumea virtuală ca refugiu şi sursă de însingurare.

Cu alte cuvinte, se impune o redefinire a copilăriei pe noi coordonate, mult mai active, mai responsabile, mai personalizate. Cei care trebuie să învţe să îşi schimbe viziunile sunt profesorii și părinţii. Aceştia trebuie să înveţe şi de la tineri, nu doar să se rezume la stillul clasic: părinţii îi învaţă pe copii.     

Nu există aici, dacă această nouă lume trebuie să se impună, un risc major pentru o relaţie socială deja foarte fragilizată? Noua „societate mondială a informaţiei” se va reduce oare la un univers îngust, colectivist, unde indivizii vor fi, până la urmă, condamnaţi la izolare[1]?

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[1] Breton, Philippe, Cultul Internetului, Editura C.N.I. Coresi, Bucureşti, 2000, p.9

If I lie here..would you...?..and just forget the world?..

This is the song that I had in mind since I woke up. I do have a good mood today because I think that my energy can overcome all the problems and worries that I have if I want to. Also, I think that watching short videos on TED made my day also. It is amazing how many things have been discovered and  didn't know about them before. 

The world as big concept can't and shouldn't be characterized. I feel that I can dream together with other people. And forget what the media and negative factors are doing now. We only got one world. Can we make it better?

When I hear the song, it reminds me of the people who can dream with their eyes open. I love them. I sometimes  think that I can do that. And it's awesome. I have asked myself today if I am a dreamer? I think most of my friends can confirm that I am. But the real question is: how high can I dream? how high can you dream? I just have to say YES to my mind and thoughts and..it's so simpleeeee...I know it is! Aim high!

I found out which are the relevant questions for me today:

1. Am I a dreamer? Are you a dreamer?

2. What kind of a dreamer am I? Do you put in practice or do you like most to dream and leave it at that level?

3. How important are dreams for me?

4. Can anyone take that away from me?

I know my answer. I know what I want and my dreams define me. I fight every day with myself to achieve what I want because the comfort zone is constantly dragging me to another place. To the zone where is safe and nothing can happen to me. I know that the word challenge is one of the most famous these days in trainings and courses. I want to dare. To dare to make things that usually I wouldn't do because I am afraid. No one can tell me that I am not. I am afraid and I am not ashamed to admit it. 

I think being nervous shows that I care and that I am willing to do it. It's good to be nervous as long as it does not stop me act. Hesitation cannot be in my everyday actions from now on. I am looking into my heart I can see that nothing is as complicate as is seems. I will practice what I wish mostly because..I think I can do great things. 

Even though I will not make the greatest decisions I am confident that my passion and my people-oriented personality will give me the courage to stand up for my opinions and beliefs. Wrong information always shown by the media and negative images make some people act like in the cinema. Are we on a scene? Should we feel like that? I've got to keep my faith that good people can actually make a change. 

Can you make a change? You can start with yourself. 

  

O zi de duminica

M-am decis atunci cand mai scriu ceva sa nu mai scriu la plural. Daca cineva vrea sa se indentifice cu ceea ce scriu, e liber sa o faca. Ma gandeam de ce imi este mai usor sa scriu la plural. Pentru ca, am senzatia (si poate e doar atat) ca si alte persoane se afla sau s-au aflat in aceleasi situatii ca mine si poate, au simtit/facut aceleasi lucruri. Ma voi referi strict la mine si la gandurile mele. 

Se pare ca pastrez cea mai rea parte din mine pentru prieteni. Este acest lucru drept? Asta imi doresc pentru prietenii mei? Sa ma plang si sa ii aduc la un nivel de saturatie cu nemultumirile, frustrarile si gandurile mele? Pentru ca am senzatia ca uneori asta fac. De aici vine uneori si o intrebare: cum ar trebui sa se comporte el atunci cand eu sunt nefericita si plang iar prietenul meu are parte de un moment foarte fericit? Uneori, poluam. Stiu ca sunt idealista si de multe ori, credintele si dorintele mele legate de lume si societate sunt utopice si vreau sa ramana asa. Acum, incep sa ma simt asa cum m-a descris un manager la o intalnire de vanzari „o gura de aer intr-o lume poluata”. Imi pare rau daca uneori ma port cu prietenii mei de parca afectiunea pe care mi-o poarta imi da dreptul sa ii „poluez”. Intentia mea este sa imi dau seama ca uneori, faptul ca eliberez orice frustrare si poate, este confirmata, poate avea si alte efecte.

Perspectiva mea poate fi gresita. Si daca primesc aprobare fara sa gandesc inainte (asa cum se cuvine sa fac), devine si mai reala. De asta, unele lucruri o sa incep sa le gandesc din mai multe perspective inainte (multumesc Cipi).  Mai intai, o sa ma gandesc la ce am facut in ziua respectiva pas cu pas, lucruri relevante pentru mine si dezvoltarea mea, doar la experiente si actiuni fara sa iau in considerare sentimente si consecinte. Apoi, a doua ipostaza va fi cea in care ma detasez si o privesc pe Diana (ma refer la mine la persoana a treia) facand acele lucruri, adaugand sentimente si stari la ceea ce s-a intamplat. Cea de-a treia ipostaza,  ma face sa ma gandesc cum mi-ar fi dorit sa fie, ce as schimba si cum s-ar simti Diana intr-un scenariu cu detaliile schimbate. As fi un regizor in acets moment.

Acesta este un exercitiu folositor practicat cu regularitate, de obicei seara, insotit de o stare de motivatie de a descoperi ce anume ai fost, esti si vrei sa modifici, cum vrei sa ajungi in viitor. Imi place sa ma gandesc la mine si la ziua mea ca fiind o fotografie care distinge ziua prezenta de cea de ieri si in mod sigur, cea de maine. Sunt de acord cu afirmatia: „Yesterday's the past, tomorrow's the future, but today is a gift. That's why it's called the present.”.

 E un cadou daca stim sa apreciem ce avem. Astazi, caror fapte/actiuni/sentimente/persoane le datorez recunostinta? Pentru mine, raspunsul e simplu: celor care m-au vizitat si nu prea mai vroiau sa plece, colegei de camera si parintilor mei in ceea ce priveste persoanele pentru ca m-au facut sa zambesc, m-au facut parte din viata lor si pentru ca isi exprima mereu sentimentele glumind. Ma bine dispun si imi dau unul din cele mai importante sentimente din viata umana: apartenenta la grup. Cat de stiintific suna! Adevarat, cel putin pentru mine. Tot am tendinta sa vorbesc la plural. J

Din punct de vedere al faptelor, actiunilor si experientelor, astazi m-am relaxat si cred ca imi prinde bine poate imi mai pierde din seriozitate si incruntare, caci asa am fost descrisa in ultimul timp. Si din stres. Clar. Scap eu si de stres desi cred ca putin stres ma ajuta sa pot prioritiza mai bine si mai repede ceea ce am de facut. Functioneaza in cazul meu. Si mi-am amintit astazi de atat de multe momente comice, frumoase si nebune din viata mea intrucat am avut discutii despre liceu si facultate unde ne-am permis..cam multe?:))

In acelasi timp, trebuie sa fiu constienta ca socoteala de acasa nu se potriveste cu cea din targ. Si asta mi s-a intamplat si azi. Chiar daca imi planific bine timpul, uneori..ma abat de la plan pentru ca..e fun:D si imi place si poate..am nevoie de asta. Planurile functioneaza destul de bine pentru mine insa nu in fiecare zi. 

Uneori, ritmul meu se completeaza si alterneaza cu perioade in care..uit cum e sa planific. Si e minunat. E o provocare sa le pot imbina. Ma provoaca la a ma redefini si la a imi completa dorinta de a ma descooperi in fiecare zi..si in a-mi da seama de valoarea mea. 

Cities I have visited

It was so beautiful.

1. Stockholm, Sweden

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Si ce am invatat?

 

Poate ca a venit timpul sa ma intreb ce am invatat pana acum. Raspunsul ar fi unul prea lung si extrem de obositor. Mai mult de atat, nu cred ca ar fi suficient de cuprinzator, in acest caz, omitand poate multe lucruri importante pe care le-am invatat. Varianta cea mai simpla care mi-a venit in minte este sa ma gandesc in fiecare seara ce am invatat in ziua respectiva, ce apreciez si ce nu.

Cu toate ca lumea poluata in care traim imi ofera multe exemple negative si imi arata in fiecare zi cum sa NU fiu, ma gandesc ca de multe ori, evenimentele sunt imbracate in sentimente frumoase si pot descoperi dimensiuni si meandre inedite (daca privesc dintr-un unghi diferit).

Sunt pusa in situatia in care ma adaptez foarte repede si din mers. Am parte de experiente frumoase dar si de experiente pe care nu credeam ca o sa le traiesc vreodata (unele nici nu doream sa le traiesc vreodata), de emotii si reactii pe care nu mi-am imaginat ca o sa le aprofundez.

Ceea ce acum imi insenineaza ziua si viata nu mai are legatura cu mediul care imi crea aceste emotii in trecut si imi dau seama ca acum sunt obligata sa abordez niste situatii pe care nu credeam ca o sa le abordez vreodata. De data asta, o fac fara sa am vreun sentiment de manie, de ura sau depresie pentru ca acest context imi creeaza starea de vorbesc. Este timpul sa scap de mici mofturi, de manii si poate de elemente ale unei educatii gresite (sau gresit interpretate).

De cele mai multe ori, sunt victima propriei mele atitudini (multumesc Cipi). Acum, imi dau seama ca sunt capabila sa gasesc timpul si energia necesara si pot face o reevaluare a potentialului meu intr-un mod mult mai corect decat pana acum.

Sunt de acord ca trecutul ma defineste si pot spune ca sunt putine lucruri pe care le-am facut si imi doresc sa le schimb. Este timpul sa ma detasez de conditia anterioara si sa caut noi orizonturi, sa prind aripi (fara Red Bull de data asta).

Viata este bogata in semnificatii si evenimente.
Depinde de unghiul din care (VREI sa) privesti.  

Well, according to people who live here, Aarhus IS a BIG city ! So yes, maybe I was wrong! ^:)^

Anyway, this is a great experience for me as I have the opportunity to know so many internationals and to live like Danes. Also, for the first time in my life I can say that I like to go at the seaside because now it is not so hot outside and I don't have to stay out of the sun (so I will not burn my skin).

After I visited Aarhus with the guide and other internationals, we concluded that our staying here is going to be great and full of adventureeeees!

As I had the chance to win some basketball tickets at the Aarhus Festival, I failed as you can see from the video. Even though I played basketball in highschool (and I was good at it), this is not one of my best times. They had a contest where I had to throw a newspaper, an empty pastic bottle and a ball at the basket and if I had just score two of them, I had won tickets for 2 persons to see the basketball game. I tried (twice!) and I don't know what was wrong. Maybe it was my karma:)):))

Also, they had some good music and fun games :D

It was a nice time during the Festival:)
I have noticed that Danes go nuts when they hear hip-hop:)) It's like they are electrocuted or something:))

In that last day of the Festival, guess what?! thay had the Hip-Hop School singing and dancing and a lot of people were passionate about it!




Also, at theDenmark's Biggest Friday bar and sports day (Danmarks Største Fredagsbar og Idrætsdag ) party from the university, they acted the same. They went up on the tables, danced passionately and gathered in front of the stage when a hip-hop song was performed.

That's nice :D
Drinking and talking is their main view on having fun and less dancing :D
oh well, everyone has fun in a different way, so..it's their way to have fun :p

we also danced, or at least, tried to 

A lot of internationals were present (I knew more than 70 there) and the good news is that the university organises such events:D Hhmm..maybe other universities should take this as an example :P

They games during the day, competitions with prizes and good music:D Sounds like the recipe for a good time and having fun:D
Although it was a popular event, it all ended at 1 am.Odd, right?

Vikings were there, too (French people with horns) and actually, I can certainly say that they were the VIPs of the night! Good job, guys!:D

I think that I'm gonna buy some, too:)):))

Inceputul vietii mele in Aarhus, DK

In sfarsit am timp sa scriu din nou. De fapt, nu am dar vreau sa scriu din nou!

     Poate ca totusi m-am inselat in privinta danezilor. Sunt mai ok decat credeam. Intr-adevar, poate ca au gusturi diferite si activitati diverse (mai speciale :)) ) dar sunt oameni faini! Ce m-a facut sa imi schimb parerea? Faptul ca oamenii se intorc din drum sa imi arate pe unde trebuie sa merg si ca mereu sunt open-minded (sa asculte nu si pentru altele, revin cu detalii).






In saptamana introductorie am avut foarte multe activitati, poate prea multe uneori pentru ca venea obosita dupa atatea informatii in engleza si atatea persoane pe care le cunosteam si apoi uitam tara si numele (evident, eram peste 300 de oameni pe acolo). Datorita acestui fapt, vineri, am pierdut State Library Tour (adica foarte mult pentru ca acum nu stiu sa le utilizez bazele de date si nu stiu sa imprumut carti, dar o sa aflu! :D )). Pentru ca, dupa ce ca am fost lenesa si nu m-am trezit la 7 sa ma duc la turul Bibliotecii Centrale, am mai cerut un tur pentru cei lenesi ca mine care din anumite motive (diverse, lene, faptul ca nu erau aici), nu au putut sa participe la cel organizat de universitate.

Dar ce mi-a placut cel mai mult (in afara de mancarea excelenta:D) a fost un tur al orasului. A fost super dragut din partea lor (desi locatia si ora intalnirii a fost misleading asa ca am intarziat cam 12 persoane :D ).
Am avut parte de o doamne extraordinar de draguta si amabila care stia (foarte multa) istorie (ma indoiesc ca era profesia ei sa fie ghid) si care (evident) ca m-a condus pana la statie pentru ca nu stia cum sa imi explice unde e (stau intr-o parte diferita a orasului decat cei din grupul de atunci). Ne-a dus pe la muzee, prin centrul orasului, la catedrala, la inca o biserca (surprinzator, pentru ca eu nu sunt prea religiosi) si ne-a aratat casele vechi din Aarhus, ce structura aveau.

Sigur ca au fost minunate momentele in care ni se explica cum erau vikingii si cat de mititel era orasul (de parca acum ar fi mare :)) ) si cum era asezat doar atat cat este centrul acum dar ca sunt foarte mandri si acum de faptul ca pescuitul reprezinta una din ocupatiile principale. Ce-i drept, au un port foarte frumos si ingrijit si mai mult, nu e doar o plaja unde poti merge, ci foarte multe locatii dragute unde poti vedea parcuri frumoase (precum cel in care poti hrani caprioare ). Nu au lipsit descrierile privind locatiile de socializare din oras (de astea nu duc lipsa) dar mi-ar fi placut sa fie mai mari.

Au o alee plina de baruri dragute dar megaaaa scumpeee si mici!

Sooo...ce am facut eu dupa saptamana introductorie? Well, am fost la Festivalul Orasului Aarhus. It was great!





Am tot mers pe acolo, dar faptul ca ar trebui sa platesc 18 lei pe o bere sau un suc nu ma incanta:D
Asa ca, mai rarut ca-i mai dragut
:D

Ce-i drept, unele din ele au muzica buna dar dupa cum spuneam, nu inteleg de ce sunt asa micute (maxim 40 de oameni incap in majoritatea). Mai sunt cateva exceptii si imi place unul Waxie, unde am fost aseara, doar pentru au o formatie care canta anumite cover-uri. Pacat ca preturile sunt asaaaaa de mari.

Reforma învăţământului

Reforma învăţământului – un proces continuu. Recomandări privind adaptarea sistemului de învăţământ superior

            Studenţii resimt necesitatea unui ghidaj în alegerea carierei şi ulterior un sprijin în momentele de debut ale acesteia (când, conform studiilor în vigoare, avem de-a face cu un moment de criză pe care proaspătul angajat îl poate experimenta atât în plan personal cât şi în plan profesional)[1].  O astfel de consiliere nu poate fi lăsată pe seama întâmplării, ci „se cuvine să fie apanajul unui sistem coerent, formal, bine ancorat în realitatea universitară căreia îi serveşte”[2]. Din convorbirile cu studenţii, de multe ori aceştia au subliniat faptul că decizia a fost luată în urma a prea puţine informaţii și mai mult, intuitiv.

            Mobilitatea în carieră este un aspect relevat de studiul făcut de Ion-Ovidiu Pânişoară şi Georgeta Pânişoară. Astfel, dacă în urmă cu o anumită perioadă de timp, mentalitatea unei singure cariere în conştiinţa colectivă, noile generaţii par să se dezvolte cu o altă perspectivă asupra traiectului lor profesional.

            Mai trebuie adăugat ca procentele dezvoltate de către studenţii din anii terminali sunt mai ridicate în direcţia pozitivării acţiunii universitare decât cele aparţinând studenţilor de debut al pregătirii universitare. Ori, o astfel de situaţie demonstrează că – deşi lipseşte ghidajul de carieră şi suportul formal în dezvoltarea studenţilor – aceştia consideră că au identificat resurse[3] pentru ca acest proces să se producă; mai precis, procesul de management al carierei este prezent chiar în lipsa unui demers coerent şi adaptat, el provine din eforturile studenţilor de a utiliza la maximum ceea ce le oferă forma de învăţământ superior pe care o frecventează . Este evident că un echilibru în acest sens, constând din demersuri flexibile şi substanţiale din partea celuilalt  actor social – este vorba despre instituţia de învăţământ superior  -  este în măsură „să crească exponenţial valoarea unor altfel de optimizări atât pe axa domeniului informativ cât mai ales în axa dezvoltării atitudinale”[4] (pentru că nu trebuie să uităm că la un alt item studenţii au răspuns că pregătirea universitară le-a întrunit aşteptările – referitor la cariera pentru care se pregătesc – doar în proporţie de 62,2% ceea ce înseamnă că instituţia de învăţământ superior mai are de recuperat mai mult d o treime din produsul său pentru a oferi un învăţământ de calitate). Pe de altă parte, educaţia superioară este privită de către studenţi drept o condiţie necesară, dar nu şi suficientă. Aproape două treimi dintre ei (64%) consideră că „Degeaba termini o facultate dacă nu ai relaţii”[5]. Doar o treime dintre cadrele didactice se află în aceeaşi situaţie.

            Toate aceste demersuri se pot realiza prin „dezvoltarea unei reţele de centre care să ofere management de carieră la nivelul fiecărei intituţii de învăţământ superior de orientare şcolară şi profesională din învăţământul preuniversitar şi inserţia socio-profesională a absolvenţilor”[6]. Iată de ce instituţiile de învăţământ superior trebuie să ofere programe flexibile, adaptate nevoilor de formare ale cursanţilor iar aceştia trebuie văzuţi în dubla lor calitate: de beneficiari ai procesului de formare şi de resurse pentru o dezvoltare mai bună a viitoarelor programe de formare. Universitatea trebuie să ăşi reconsolideze statutul şi să ăşi dezvolte rolul de actor social de maximă importanţă, partener al angajatorilor – cei care în fapt utilizează produsul activităţilor ei instructiv-educative.

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[1] A se consulta Anexa numărul 5

[2] Pânişoară, Ion-Ovidiu,   Pânişoară, Georgeta, Studiu privind impactul pregătirii universitare asupra pieţei muncii, Editura Universităţii din Bucureşti, 2008, p.  53

[3] A se consulta Anexa numărul 6

[4] Pânişoară, Ion-Ovidiu,   Pânişoară, Georgeta, op.cit., p.  56

[5] A se consulta Anexa umărul 7

[6] Pânişoară, Ion-Ovidiu,   Pânişoară, Georgeta, op.cit., p. 58-59