How can I remember today’s lesson?

Often, I hear people that they like to learn by doing. True story, it’s very useful indeed. Let’s not forget that every human being has its own characteristics and needs. Therefore, generalizing is not a good solution in any case. Remembering everyday’s lesson is a big challenge. And I asked myself if I really want to remember a lesson from each day. Oh well, it would be unrealistic to say that I will. The next step comes in my life comes from the advice from 2 different persons with the same passion: training. And it is something that I was doing just before I started to write this post: writing the most important ideas from that day and my target is from 3 to 5. Not more and not less. 

Simple. Almost like life. Is it? Is it simple? Yes and no. There’s no correct answer but different perspectives. The main ideas of the day are:

1.     Give yourself at least some time to answer to a question à Less than 10 seconds.  (This idea also contributes to my active listening objective)

2.   Ask. Ask questions and I will obtain the most important part of the power: information. (Overcoming my fear of asking stupid stuff)

3.     Don’t under-rate yourself no matter how other rate you. Your identity shouldn’t become one of a loser just because one/some person(s) believe this. 

Writing. I came back at this. I cannot explain the feeling. It feels so natural. Remember, my goal is not to promote what I write.

These ideas are not new or revealing. I write them to remember myself that even though I should have them integrated in my actions and behavior, sometimes, I lose focus and my fears overcome my strengths. 

Having this said, my last remark for today is: some people learn from everyday’s lesson, but other..they just say  this  and repeat the mistakes over and over again.   

To have or not to have ...problems

Problems. A word used almost every day by a person. What does the word mean? Oh, again, maybe the definition is clear-cut "a state of difficulty that needs to be resolved" but don't imagine that it means the same for all the people. Of course, as far as I have traveled (and that is not very much, unfortunately), people have the same problems but seen by different angles. They also give different levels of importance to the problems, mostly according to the country and personality type. So I cannot say that my BIG problem can ever be a problem for my classmates or their problems, their type of problems have a big importance for me. It's a matter of perception. What I can surely say is that we cannot escape of them. Even if I am here or in Romania or in any other country, I would still have problems. And that's ok with me cause life would be so booring without them.

It's not like I enjoy having problems but how would life look like with ZERO problems? Heaven? Maybe. Maybe not. Would we still learn so much? I believe we will never know the answer to that. We had a chance and we lost it. Now, we have to bare the consequences.

And yes, I have problems. I have the chance to have them as much as any other person in the world. What do I do then? There are 3 big cases for me. 

1. Cry like a baby.

 I can be upset, not talking too much, cry almost because of every single sentence that has a sad meaning. Mostly, this stage appears in every big problem that I have and it is replaced after a few minutes with brainstorming. And of course, "the beloved": stress. Everything gets hectic, annoying, stressfull, disturbing, unsolvable, unrealisable, negative. Connections with the past problems and appraches come fast into my mind and I complain. Like that helps. Well, I have to say that such a "baby behaviour" can be useful due to the fact that I can set myself free of the negative energy by doing actions like the ones mentioned. The idea is that: I need to stop. If I continue with this atittude, I would only get pitty and zero actions. Maybe a timer would help :))

2. Prove myself that I can solve it. Look for opportunities, spend a lot of time and energy on it. 

It might look like a very good solution. Usually it gives me a big picture of what happens, how it happens and brings me to what I really want to know: why it happens and why is it important for me. I just "might" look like a good solution because sometimes I get lost in the analysis part and forget to put in practice some of the ideas or just be aware of so many possibilities that it is very difficult to choose. It's true that analysis and processing the information has a great importance for me. I love it and I usually do it without even knowing it. Some other issues appear when the words "too much" come into the picture. When I spend too much time and too much energy on them.

3. "Let it be" solution.

I actually do nothing about it. Not vegetating, of course, but not trying that much. Less energy and interest, focusing on something else and saying to myself "it's going to be ok, in one way or another". Surprinsingly, sometimes, it really works. I call them wonders and wonderful gifts/moments, others may call them in different ways: law of attraction, special vibe, coincidence, faith, luck etc. I don't mind to use any label for those events. But I like to call them "faith moments", a believer's moment - believe and it will come to you. When everything goes wrong, something choses to go "right" and the sky is not that cloudy anymore and every darkness can be lighted with a small gesture or experience. I will probably never now  how I do it. Maybe it comes naturally. Hopefully. 

Probably, the best way to deal with a problem is neither. It might be a combination of the 3 or simple, a way to figure it out how to give up. Sometimes, you have to let go. That does not mean to give up fighting, I refer by this to acceptance. Some things are just not meant to happen. Other good things come even though it's not "the right moment". The important thing is to remain open-minded and to see ourselves as people who face challenges and difficulties but not to see them as a burden because it might become a pain in the soul. Make small steps to your happiness. When problems follow you, throw them in your favour. Take what is good from the experience and remember that a mistake can change our lives. Forever.