It takes Time

How come we rush into actions, feelings and dreams? Is true that we don’t have TIME? I don’t have an answer to the question even though I say the exact words sometimes. Nevertheless, I am not convinced that we DON’T HAVE TIME. I believe that the time had the same dimension and speed from the beginning of the world so it’s not the TIME that changed but WE DID. And especially, we have changed the usage of it.

So what do we use our time for? Making a count on this ending week, I can see in my schedule that beside work, I spent most of my time at work, on the second place on the way there and back and I did not have much left for cooking, washing, running, reading and mails/calls. Therefore, almost nothing left for ME. ME. An observation popped-up: I am the last in the list o priorities lately. And that part of me is screaming. It wants attention. Fair enough. So, I will apply a new design for my time management. Already sketched, I am now doing that for the next week to test it. Seems like the relaxed, “let it come to me” style needs a bit of…make up.  And this way I will see if I can “make some time”. It sounds so weird, like I can create time. Oh, I wish I could create time. (Barney Stinson would be so jealous of me!!) I already have it, I just misuse it.

Next step: figuring out what is more important to me. Everything I did it will stay, all of those important things for me. The idea is to ADD things to my life that can make me feel…fulfilled (within the conditions I have). I don’t wish for perfection or “pinky life”.  Still, I believe I can do more. It’s not a “”if …then..” situation or another type of pressure in my life but I feel that I want to do it and I have the capacity to succeed. I did in Denmark so I have to find a suitable receipt for Romania. Applying that one did not work (I tried - silly me).

It takes time to do the real important things: to trust and be trusted, to love and be loved, to respect, to share and to give up pride. I suggest the length in time because such strong feelings and actions are internalized and integrated to a body system step by step. I am fooling myself if I believe that just by repeating that to my brain and my soul, it will do.

 It takes time especially because we live in this world where values like integrity, honesty, happiness or solidarity are just…beautiful words, utopias(and the number of those who believe this is increasing day by day- I guess they are making babies and putting this idea into their head – otherwise, I don’t understand how the dynamic of pessimistic people has increased so much! ). It’s a world where I am being said at every step that I can’t/shouldn’t’ trust anybody. But I want to trust people. And I want to love. It takes time for this. But I already made the first step. I gave up my pride.

And the song that followed in my player when writing this post:

(It takes time/ Living a world where you don’t know who to trust) Lyrics

One of my kind

Singing mood again. And thats' alright, usually. The last 2 days I've had small cold in such a warm (HOT!) city. That did not helped in balancing the temperature of my body. So, I am singing again!:D



and the original version :D



This song comes into my mind especially due to the wonderful people I had the honour to meet at HR Club Next Generation 2011. The everyday discussions I have with them, make me feel that I am in the right place at the right moment (almost feels like recruitment:P ). I am happy to see optimistic and ambitious people, young determinated people to bring more choices and changes in a world where money and power are almost fully promoted (aka Romania).

Congrats to them!
Meeting this kind of people makes me keep going and trusting that the future will bring something beautiful. I am sure that these events are meant to happen and to bring together passioned people!

It feels so conforting to talk with people with a common language and interest and more than that, determined to ACT and not just to TALK.  It almost feels like I found the belonging feeling (which is a need of every living person).

Sometimes, I am not sure how this works but it just does. When you want something very much, even the universe works for it. The law of attraction? Luck? Coincidence? God? Maybe one, some or maybe all of them together. I am grateful for the opportunity and I promise to promote and support this type of initiative.

I can say now to any of the participants : "You're one of my kind", like in the song. :P:P Hopefully, some of them will become my friends :D This means, to breakdown the walls of facebook :)
And this kind of events reminds me of my AIESEC family :X

How can I remember today’s lesson?

Often, I hear people that they like to learn by doing. True story, it’s very useful indeed. Let’s not forget that every human being has its own characteristics and needs. Therefore, generalizing is not a good solution in any case. Remembering everyday’s lesson is a big challenge. And I asked myself if I really want to remember a lesson from each day. Oh well, it would be unrealistic to say that I will. The next step comes in my life comes from the advice from 2 different persons with the same passion: training. And it is something that I was doing just before I started to write this post: writing the most important ideas from that day and my target is from 3 to 5. Not more and not less. 

Simple. Almost like life. Is it? Is it simple? Yes and no. There’s no correct answer but different perspectives. The main ideas of the day are:

1.     Give yourself at least some time to answer to a question à Less than 10 seconds.  (This idea also contributes to my active listening objective)

2.   Ask. Ask questions and I will obtain the most important part of the power: information. (Overcoming my fear of asking stupid stuff)

3.     Don’t under-rate yourself no matter how other rate you. Your identity shouldn’t become one of a loser just because one/some person(s) believe this. 

Writing. I came back at this. I cannot explain the feeling. It feels so natural. Remember, my goal is not to promote what I write.

These ideas are not new or revealing. I write them to remember myself that even though I should have them integrated in my actions and behavior, sometimes, I lose focus and my fears overcome my strengths. 

Having this said, my last remark for today is: some people learn from everyday’s lesson, but other..they just say  this  and repeat the mistakes over and over again.   

A life long learning process

When I woke up today, I just had in mind, what will I do for myself today as I have so many things to do and the deadlines are really close? Will I have the time (a short one, of course) for myself? The answer in my mind was: probably not, maybe tomorrow. Well, I then realized that if I do that every day, I will never have time for myself. 

So, starting today, I will have this page as an engagement to myself that I will give myself time to discover and enjoy life. I will give myself time to ask questions, to reflect upon the answers and to see my progress. 

 I choose not to procrastinate and to dedicate the time that was meant for procrastination to silly small things that can and will make me happy. 

This idea mainly came from the bike accident that I had 2 weeks ago when I realized that I cannot stop working unless I am hurt and I have to. It's not that I don't like to work or I don't like to rest, it's just that, I forgot the most important thing: balance. Well, that's not easy to get but I also forgot to try to find it. I was simply believing that it will come by itself. I could have waited for a long time......... it was just a small and very useful reminder. 

It's strange how the moment of the accident felt so long, it was like a neverending moment. The time was dilated and I felt powerless in front of the situation. I couldn't think aout something else than the moment and nothing mattered anymore: responsibilities, problems, tasks or wishes. I felt alone and without control. 

It was not the first moment of this kind in my life and it has reminded me that even though work is so important, if I am not healthy and I don't take care of myself, no one else will. For good reasons. I mean yes, friends and family are supposed to be there for me (and by all means, they are) but I am the first responsible for what happens to me. No one else is responsible for my happiness and my feelings. Of course, the external factors have a big word to say in this but still, we can make our way through life happy or miserable. We have a choice and mostly, often I choose to blame faith. Now, this is not valid anymore. I take over the lead for my    way and I choose to be happy  because I do not know what is going to happen in my life in a minute, one hour, a day or a month. So planning is good., I will still do that but appreciating all the moments in my life (good or bad) is my next purpose. All the moments have a meaning and a sense and they become part of us. 

And I got it! I have the next step of my life learning process: I bought a notebook, a very nice, small (I can have all the time with me), colored notebook and I will write:

* dreams

* crazy thoughts (good and bad) to remind me that I am not an angel, I am just human

* interesting things that I find out

* happy moments

and of course, all the other things that I will consider necessary. 

In order not to become a burden, because I tend (sometimes) to do that with things because I have the purpose of making them daily, this is free of deadline in my to do list. When I feel like writing in it, it will be wonderful. If I do not, the same. 

Hmm.. it will be interesting to see (for me) what I will write by the end of my Erasmus stage in Denmark. Then I will have another notebook at home and I will see if Aarhus is "to blame" for my happiness here because after all, I am living in the city with the happiest people on Earth.  

Love moments

How can I recognize a LOVE moment? Sometimes I forget how happy I am. This is a reminder for me and for all the people who feel the same. We alk a lot about happiness and what that means but do we really know? Do we really appreciate and enjoy those moments when they come to our life?

I will watch this every time I feel that I should give up. Cause sometimes, those moments appear in my life and I feel that I cannot do what I want anymore. This is like a hope, an energizer and a constant proof that I do not need extraordinary things to smile and to feel fulfilled.

When are you  happy? Because I am happy when...

Love moments on Prezi

Love moments on Prezi

To have or not to have ...problems

Problems. A word used almost every day by a person. What does the word mean? Oh, again, maybe the definition is clear-cut "a state of difficulty that needs to be resolved" but don't imagine that it means the same for all the people. Of course, as far as I have traveled (and that is not very much, unfortunately), people have the same problems but seen by different angles. They also give different levels of importance to the problems, mostly according to the country and personality type. So I cannot say that my BIG problem can ever be a problem for my classmates or their problems, their type of problems have a big importance for me. It's a matter of perception. What I can surely say is that we cannot escape of them. Even if I am here or in Romania or in any other country, I would still have problems. And that's ok with me cause life would be so booring without them.

It's not like I enjoy having problems but how would life look like with ZERO problems? Heaven? Maybe. Maybe not. Would we still learn so much? I believe we will never know the answer to that. We had a chance and we lost it. Now, we have to bare the consequences.

And yes, I have problems. I have the chance to have them as much as any other person in the world. What do I do then? There are 3 big cases for me. 

1. Cry like a baby.

 I can be upset, not talking too much, cry almost because of every single sentence that has a sad meaning. Mostly, this stage appears in every big problem that I have and it is replaced after a few minutes with brainstorming. And of course, "the beloved": stress. Everything gets hectic, annoying, stressfull, disturbing, unsolvable, unrealisable, negative. Connections with the past problems and appraches come fast into my mind and I complain. Like that helps. Well, I have to say that such a "baby behaviour" can be useful due to the fact that I can set myself free of the negative energy by doing actions like the ones mentioned. The idea is that: I need to stop. If I continue with this atittude, I would only get pitty and zero actions. Maybe a timer would help :))

2. Prove myself that I can solve it. Look for opportunities, spend a lot of time and energy on it. 

It might look like a very good solution. Usually it gives me a big picture of what happens, how it happens and brings me to what I really want to know: why it happens and why is it important for me. I just "might" look like a good solution because sometimes I get lost in the analysis part and forget to put in practice some of the ideas or just be aware of so many possibilities that it is very difficult to choose. It's true that analysis and processing the information has a great importance for me. I love it and I usually do it without even knowing it. Some other issues appear when the words "too much" come into the picture. When I spend too much time and too much energy on them.

3. "Let it be" solution.

I actually do nothing about it. Not vegetating, of course, but not trying that much. Less energy and interest, focusing on something else and saying to myself "it's going to be ok, in one way or another". Surprinsingly, sometimes, it really works. I call them wonders and wonderful gifts/moments, others may call them in different ways: law of attraction, special vibe, coincidence, faith, luck etc. I don't mind to use any label for those events. But I like to call them "faith moments", a believer's moment - believe and it will come to you. When everything goes wrong, something choses to go "right" and the sky is not that cloudy anymore and every darkness can be lighted with a small gesture or experience. I will probably never now  how I do it. Maybe it comes naturally. Hopefully. 

Probably, the best way to deal with a problem is neither. It might be a combination of the 3 or simple, a way to figure it out how to give up. Sometimes, you have to let go. That does not mean to give up fighting, I refer by this to acceptance. Some things are just not meant to happen. Other good things come even though it's not "the right moment". The important thing is to remain open-minded and to see ourselves as people who face challenges and difficulties but not to see them as a burden because it might become a pain in the soul. Make small steps to your happiness. When problems follow you, throw them in your favour. Take what is good from the experience and remember that a mistake can change our lives. Forever. 

Viata ca o aventura

Nu imi amintesc sa fi visat vreodata sa am o viata aventuroasa, sa traiesc de pe un minut pe altul sau sa ma bucur de toata incurcaturile pe care le intampin. Si uite ca asta fac. Firea mea linistita imi spunea ca daca o sa calculez totul cu atentie, lucrurile o sa mearga macar aproximativ pe directia pe care imi doresc. Daca vreu, pot ! spuneam eu in fiecare zi. Uneori, asta nu e suficient. Lucruri neprevazute pot aparea si pot sa dea totul peste cap.

Indecizia mea de a aplica pentru o bursa Eramsus m-a adus cu aproape o ora inaintea deadline-ului si doar un curaj nebun m-a facut sa o scriu, sa am norocul sa mi se strice imprimanta si sa am timp sa merg sa printez ceea ce am scris ca sa ajung. Ca sa nu mai vorbesc de incurcatura cu interviul. Relaxarea mea adusa de orasul Timisoara si de oamenii de acolo (oameni frumosi la suflet!) imi spunea ca mai am timp o saptamana cand o colega ma intreba cum a fost la interviu, 2 zile mai tarziu dupa aplicatie. Culmea, nu verificasem cand o sa fie interviurile si deja trecuse randul meu. Cu sufletul la gura, am alergat la universitate si am avut parte de un interviu interesant, mai putin incurajator cu privire la evolutia mea viitoare daca primesc aceasta bursa. De parca ar fi prima data cand ma descurajeaza cineva si totusi, vreau sa fac un lucru. Am ajuns la concluzia ca, multi oameni cred ca daca ei nu sunt in stare sa fac un lucru, nici ceilalti nu vor reusi. Nu as putea fi de acord. Plus ca, nimeni nu e perfect asa ca nu ma asteptam sa fie lapte cu miere sau profesori care sa ne planga de mila ca suntem studenti internationali. Nu fac nici o diferenta de nativii vorbitori de engleza sau noi si cred ca asa e corect. Atat stii, asa te descurci, asta meriti. Cred ca toti stiam pentru ce aplicam.

Cu mai multe vorbe sau nu, cu obstacole si descurajari dar si cu sustinere (retinuta oarecum) am ajuns si in Danemarca la studii. Cine ar fi crezut! Daca m-ar fi intrebat cineva in timpul facultatii de asta, cred ca radeam copios si visam cu ochii deschisi, stiind ca o astfel de oportunitate nu as mai avea niciodata. Imi amintesc cand am aplicat prima data, in anul 1 pentru Erasmus si apoi cand am fost in comisia Erasmus si cat am regretat ca pana la urma nu am avut suficient curaj sa iau aceasta oportunitate. Cred ca imi era frica. Nu ca acum nu mi-ar fi fost. E ca si cum ai juca UNO. Si ai cartea potrivita sa inchei jocul.

Aceasta situatie a fost oarecum conturata si provocata de prietenii mei. Prieteni precum Anamaria, Ioana, Alexandra sau cei de acasa imi vorbeau tot timpul de cat de frumoasa ar fi o experienta pentru mine. Doar eu nu ma vedeam acolo. Nici nu indrazneam sa ma gandesc la asta. Tin sa le multumesc ca mi-au dat curaj si ca au vazut in mine ceea ce eu nu am putut si doar prin a vorbi de experientele lor internationale m-au facut sa ma imaginez undeva in afara contextul dat de Romania si invatamantul romanesc.

Acum imi place viata pe care o traiesc, e o adevarata aventura! In fiecare zi aflu ceva nou despre danezi sau alte culturi, stiu sa salut si sa multumesc cuiva in cel putin 10 limbi straine, am parte de profesori de care auzisem numai in  carti si de colegi workaholic. Astfel, eu par prea relaxata pe langa ei. De la probleme cu florile pana la probleme cu masina si intarzierea predarii lucrarii la secertariat cu 13 minute si aplicarea la comisia speciala de la departamentul de Stiinte Politice pentru a-mi permite sa dau examenul cu acele 13 minute intarziate, In caz contrar, trebuie sa merg in restanta si sa scriu alta lucrare de 6000 de cuvinte. Dragut sistem, corect!

Am invatat aici multe lucruri despre care acasa doar vorbeam ca o sa le fac. In principiu, pentru ca aici e o normalitate. Si imi place asta. Oameni obsedati de sanatate, care alearga cate 2-3 ore pe zi pe frigul asta, care mananca sanatos si care nu accepta ideea de a invata o noapte intreaga pentru ca somnul iti da energie si e important. Diferentele au fost apasatoare la inceput, acum am invatat sa le accept. Cred ca danezii au o viata perfecta din toate celelalte puncte de vedere, le mai trebuie putin suflet pentru a avea idealul. Nu cred insa ca stiu cum sa faca asta. Oricum ar fi, ii admir pentru harnicia lor si pentru seriozitatea de care dau dovada, pentru corectitudine si responsabilitate. Ii admir pentru ca, desi au mereu probleme cu strainii din tara lor, inca mai gasesc puterea de a ajuta oameni si sunt mandri cand cineva doreste sa se stabileasca aici.




Am avea mult de invatat de la ei. Ca tara, ca oameni, ca organizare la lucrurilor. In schimb, ei ar putea sa invete sa simta mai mult de la noi. Sa inteleaga altfel iubirea si interesul pentru persoana de langa ei. Sa inteleaga altfel iubirea de parinti. Sa inteleaga,,greutati..cuvant cu care nu prea s-au confruntat..sau poate ca da, daca ne gandim la reduceri privnd pensiile si salariile..



Aventura mea aici continua in fiecare zi. De la a calatori in Germania pana la a ma duce in centru, totul este o aventura si imprejurarile nu ma lasa sa uit asta. Ca sa nu mai vorbesc de bicicleta mea draguta, care nu ma lasa sa uit ca o vale nu e deloc placuta pentru mine deoarece franele pot ceda foarte usor in fiecare moment :)))))))