Problems. A word used almost every day by a person. What does the word mean? Oh, again, maybe the definition is clear-cut "a state of difficulty that needs to be resolved" but don't imagine that it means the same for all the people. Of course, as far as I have traveled (and that is not very much, unfortunately), people have the same problems but seen by different angles. They also give different levels of importance to the problems, mostly according to the country and personality type. So I cannot say that my BIG problem can ever be a problem for my classmates or their problems, their type of problems have a big importance for me. It's a matter of perception. What I can surely say is that we cannot escape of them. Even if I am here or in Romania or in any other country, I would still have problems. And that's ok with me cause life would be so booring without them.
It's not like I enjoy having problems but how would life look like with ZERO problems? Heaven? Maybe. Maybe not. Would we still learn so much? I believe we will never know the answer to that. We had a chance and we lost it. Now, we have to bare the consequences.
And yes, I have problems. I have the chance to have them as much as any other person in the world. What do I do then? There are 3 big cases for me.
1. Cry like a baby.
I can be upset, not talking too much, cry almost because of every single sentence that has a sad meaning. Mostly, this stage appears in every big problem that I have and it is replaced after a few minutes with brainstorming. And of course, "the beloved": stress. Everything gets hectic, annoying, stressfull, disturbing, unsolvable, unrealisable, negative. Connections with the past problems and appraches come fast into my mind and I complain. Like that helps. Well, I have to say that such a "baby behaviour" can be useful due to the fact that I can set myself free of the negative energy by doing actions like the ones mentioned. The idea is that: I need to stop. If I continue with this atittude, I would only get pitty and zero actions. Maybe a timer would help :))2. Prove myself that I can solve it. Look for opportunities, spend a lot of time and energy on it.
It might look like a very good solution. Usually it gives me a big picture of what happens, how it happens and brings me to what I really want to know: why it happens and why is it important for me. I just "might" look like a good solution because sometimes I get lost in the analysis part and forget to put in practice some of the ideas or just be aware of so many possibilities that it is very difficult to choose. It's true that analysis and processing the information has a great importance for me. I love it and I usually do it without even knowing it. Some other issues appear when the words "too much" come into the picture. When I spend too much time and too much energy on them.
3. "Let it be" solution.
I actually do nothing about it. Not vegetating, of course, but not trying that much. Less energy and interest, focusing on something else and saying to myself "it's going to be ok, in one way or another". Surprinsingly, sometimes, it really works. I call them wonders and wonderful gifts/moments, others may call them in different ways: law of attraction, special vibe, coincidence, faith, luck etc. I don't mind to use any label for those events. But I like to call them "faith moments", a believer's moment - believe and it will come to you. When everything goes wrong, something choses to go "right" and the sky is not that cloudy anymore and every darkness can be lighted with a small gesture or experience. I will probably never now how I do it. Maybe it comes naturally. Hopefully.
Probably, the best way to deal with a problem is neither. It might be a combination of the 3 or simple, a way to figure it out how to give up. Sometimes, you have to let go. That does not mean to give up fighting, I refer by this to acceptance. Some things are just not meant to happen. Other good things come even though it's not "the right moment". The important thing is to remain open-minded and to see ourselves as people who face challenges and difficulties but not to see them as a burden because it might become a pain in the soul. Make small steps to your happiness. When problems follow you, throw them in your favour. Take what is good from the experience and remember that a mistake can change our lives. Forever.
